Wednesday, August 21, 2013


From the time I was a small child, all I ever wanted "to be" was a wife and mother.  With one failed marriage of 23 years behind me, I was blessed to be the mother of three amazing sons.  I made a lot of mistakes along the way but raising those boys were the best years of my life.
                               2008 photo of my three sons and I

In 1999, I married for the second time, and gained two step-sons.  Our blended family now includes in-laws, out-laws, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, and wanna-bes which enrich our life.   There are moments of great joy, as well as sorrow, triumphs and failures, good and bad.  I embrace it all for it makes life worth living.

Mothering now is trickier than ever before.  They are adults and each one is an individual.  Each relationship is unique, therefore no cookie-cutter code-of-conduct can be followed.  Mistakes have been made along the way but each has been a learning experience that prepares us for the next path in our shared life together as family.  Our family is scattered and everyone is busy living life so most of the time I find mothering is unneeded and unwanted by my adult children.  I find myself just sitting and waiting in the background in order to maintain healthy relationships with my adult children.  I still have opportunities to do some mothering from time to time but mostly I stand in awe of who they have grown up to become in spite of my failures in mothering.  I am so very proud of them all!

Nothing is perfect, and as a mother, wife, daughter, sister and friend, I have made many mistakes.  I have learned to forgive myself, and pray they will forgive my short-comings as well.  As a mother, I can only continue to do the best I know how to do at the time, and I pray that the days and years which lay ahead is where I do some of my best work.

I found that Jillee is also sharing about the next phase of her life as the mother of an adult child on her blog, One Good Thing by Jillee.  She has shared 10 TIPS FOR PARENTING ADULT {OR ALMOST ADULT} CHILDREN (click here to go there).  It is wonderful advise she offers!!!  Peace!

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